Sidestrapping and Parenting

Shane Labs October 10, 2014 2

Developing, managing, and marketing side projects can take a lot of time. You know how hard it is to balance with your full time job – after a full day you may be putting in over 10-12 hour days – exhausting!. But what happens when you have to balance another huge time commitment, like parenting?

Yup, I’m now a parent!

I had mentioned in a couple previous posts that my wife and I are expecting. Well, our daughter is here!

My daughter

Hanging with with my beautiful daughter

This is our first child, and wow what an experience it has been. Full of ups and downs, little sleep, but much pride. She’s absolutely amazing and I find myself staring at her for hours.

Parenting changes everything

Someone had commented on a previous post predicting what would happen:

Keep in mind: A baby can change anything and there is no planning in future. But I will hope you will do your sideproject work in future.

– Christian H

Well, Christian, you were right. A baby does change everything. Not only is she a gigantic time commitment but she’s also all I ever think about. Gone are the showers where genius ideas pop into my head – now I’m just rushing to clean myself as fast as I can in the 3 spare minutes I have to bathe.

Check out my typicaly daily routine, before and after having a kid:

BEFORE NOW
12am sleep change diaper, assist in breastfeeding, rock baby back to sleep
1am sleep
2am change diaper, assist in breastfeeding, rock baby back to sleep
3am sleep
4am change diaper, assist in breastfeeding, rock baby back to sleep
5am sleep
6am wake up, work on side projects change diaper, assist in breastfeeding, rock baby back to sleep
7am get ready for day get ready for day
8am work full time job work full time job
9am
10am
11am
12pm
1pm
2pm
3pm
4pm
5pm
6pm workout change diaper, assist in breastfeeding, rock baby back to sleep
7pm dinner dinner
8pm relax, tv, read change diaper, assist in breastfeeding, rock baby back to sleep
9pm sleep
10pm sleep change diaper, assist in breastfeeding, rock baby back to sleep
11pm sleep

 

See the difference? Only about 5 hours of sleep at night, in 1 hour blocks of time, no time to workout, and no side project time. Ouch!

What does this mean?

This means that I’m crazy tired. Any free time I get I attempt to take naps. This is hard.

Am I going to quit my side project efforts? No way – I’m just now starting to see the fruits of my labors over the last year. And in the long run my side projects may allow me to spend more time with my family in the future. But for now I will be blogging less. Any side project time I do find myself with I’m going to be focusing on developing my side projects, not writing about them. Monthly profit reports will have to wait. Sorry 🙁

How long will this last? My hope is a couple months, then I’ll be back at it with a slew of posts to fill you in on what has happened. But who knows – it may be longer, may be less. I aim to find a new schedule soon, but my relatives tell me I’ll never have a set schedule now that I have kids – things will always be changing. Hoping that’s not the case.

Thank you

Thank you for understanding. If you haven’t been here before I can’t describe it, and if you have, then you know what I’m going through. Thanks for your patience while I figure out a new balance of priorities, which at the top is my precious daughter.

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2 Comments »

  1. Abe October 10, 2014 at 6:35 pm - Reply

    Congratulations, Shane! My wife and I just had our second little girl, and you’re right, exhaustion has been the name of the game ever since baby #1. People without kids have literally no idea how unfettered their time is. Now anything we do reduces or ability to contribute in other areas of parenting, marriage, side projects, personal entertainment and fitness, etc. It’s quite the ride though, and every little achievement post-birth seems even more epic because of what it takes to make happen with kids. I just discovered your blog, but I look forward to hearing more about your adventures.

    • Shane Labs October 10, 2014 at 7:09 pm - Reply

      Thanks, Abe! And congrats to you too! I knew they were going to be a lot of time, just didn’t figure 120% of my time 🙂 Good luck to you!

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